From a Bad Hair Transplant To a Good Hair Piece – Getting On With Life: Nick’s Story
September 13, 2008
My story begins about 15 years ago when I was only 19 years old. I first noticed I was losing some hair when my girlfriend at the time delicately told me that I should buy some Rogaine before I go completely bald like my father. I asked her what she meant by completely bald and she took me into the bathroom and give me a hand mirror and said to look at the bald spot growing on the top of my head. Talk about a kick in the nuts! She then went on to inform me that she didn’t sign up for this and that I should do something about it.
I wanted to kick her ass to the curb right there and then, but since I was now a newly balding guy I thought I would never be able to get a another girlfriend if I lost this one. As my hair loss got worse I could tell that my girlfriend was becoming less into me. She left me within a year and ended up screwing my cousin who had the mane of a god at this time.
This threw me over the ege so I decided to do something about it and had a hair transplant. This was the worst mistake of my life. The doctor suggested that I have 100 PLUGS placed in my hair line and that this will give me my hair back. I paid $2500 for the hair transplant and ended up looking like Joe Biden in the early days. I would say that this doctor almost put me into a metal institution, and had no remorse when I went back to show him what he had done to me. He said that it looked as expected and that I would need some more grafts to finish the job.
Now I was never told this when I paid him the first time. He told me that I would look great and that I would never have to worry about my hair loss again and that he has helped many young men in my position.
I lived my twenties looking like a freak of nature. Everywhere that I went without a hat people would stare at my head. I once got up the nerve to ask a girl from work out on a date and as I was asking her she was looking directly at my hairline, needless to say she politely turned me down.
I felt forced to undergo corrective surgeries that were all failures. My head looks like a road mark of scars and bumps with little plugs of hair sprouting out of it. The more money I spent the worse it got. It seemed like a never ending nightmare.
If it were not for the support of my family and a couple of close friends I do not know if I would be here today. There were times that I wanted to just end it all. I would get drunk alone in my room and think about ways to do it. I want the hair transplant doctors who may be reading this to know that if you ever did this type of disfiguring surgery on anyone in your past, that you might have destroyed a life. I want you to think about this and understand what you have done to another human being.
Thank God for my mother, she suggested that I try a hair piece and that her hair dresser also did hair replacement for men. At first the idea of wearing a wig depressed me even more but what choice did have?
The women was very caring and had me try on a stock unit that she was going to return because the color was not right for one of her customers. The color matched mine so I let her put it on. She did her thing and taped it on my head. She began cutting and styling it and for the first time in 5 years I felt like myself again. It looked like real hair and it looked like my hair. I mean I knew it was a wig but for the first time in such a long time I felt I was looking like a normal looking guy in the mirror. It was surreal at first.
That experience has changed my life. From that day I’ve been wearing hair pieces. If had my choice I would probably just shave my head since there are times that dealing with hair pieces is a pain, but I have no choice since I was so badly disfigured, but this story has a happy ending.
Wearing a hair piece allowed me to get on with my life. About 2 months after I started to wear one I met my wife. She had no idea that I was wearing a hairpiece until I told her. That was not an easy conversation, but I had to tell her if I ever wanted to be intimate with her. She told me that she didn’t like me for my hair and that she would never have known anyways. I still believe that if it were not for the hair piece that I would never have met the love of my life, advanced in my career or have 2 beautiful daughters.
I think about the doctor who disfigured me back then and wonder how many other young men he did this too.
I’ve had a very difficult road up until this point, but I do enjoy my life. I would much prefer not to have hair glued to my head, but I guess there are worse things.
Nick
Brenden Fraser’s Hair Loss Attacked by Bully Reporters
August 29, 2008
Gossip rags love to nag on celebrities for any infraction against high fashion or for committing the grand sin of stepping out looking like less than a supermodel. And it doesn’t matter if they’re male or female — gossip journalists have their weapons loaded and are ready to fire off an arsenal of harsh insults.
Most online gossip articles are not what you’d call quality journalism. These pieces are peppered with misspellings and grammar errors, there is rarely a byline indicating who authored the piece, and frequently, these articles make broad (and false) assumptions.
This site claims that Fraser has “hair plugs.” Actually, what he’s wearing in the movies is a very natural looking lace hair system. The unknown author of the article states, “We hate to be so shallow, but we must admit that before picture really creeps us out.”
If you hate being shallow, then don’t be shallow. Instead of badgering Brendan Fraser and calling his look “creepy,” offer some support, focusing on how great he looks in his films.
In the words of one of the article’s commentators: “And WHO cares, HELLO? its Brendan Fraser, WE ALLLLLL know how hot he is.”
This site claims to be “Williamsburg hipster central.” Since when is it hip to be cruel? One post in the online forum features a series of photos showing Brendan Fraser’s hairstyles over the past decade or so with the insightful introductory text: “this dude has the worst hair styles ever.”
Ain’t it cool how on the Internet, you can make fun of other people’s hair without ever having to show your own?
Commentators in this forum go on to rant about everything they dislike about the actor, from his face and hair to the movies he’s made, and they provide even more ammunition by posting pictures of Nicholas Cage and John Travolta, pointing out those actors’ hairlines as well.
Taking aim at celebrity hairstyles is a full time job for this site, which does nothing but shine its dull spotlight on stars whose do’s don’t pass the Bad Hair Day bar.
“What’s the surefire way to debunk rumors that you wear a hairpiece? Well according to Brendan Fraser… all you need to do is sport a hairstyle so bad there is no way anyone would pay for it.”
The piece goes on to slam Fraser every which way it can.
Comments on the article included:
• “I understand why they all wear wigs…”
• “I dont [sic] care I think he is very handsome…”
• “Not to be shallow, but this totally alters my opinion of him…”
Clearly, the public is far more empathetic than the gossip reporters.
Fame and Fallout
Hair loss is difficult and can be devastating, and the same is true for the pressure of being a celebrity, constantly scrutinized by the media and the public. Add hair loss to the stress of being a star, and it could be downright traumatic.
Brendan Fraser wears hair well. So, why are people reacting so passionately and in mean spirits against his uncontrollable condition? It’s not like he willingly plucked the hairs on his head! He has a medical condition.
Men don’t have the luxury of enhancing their natural looks with makeup, push-up bras, and fake fingernails. When men seek treatment for hair loss, we’re not trying to be fake or pretentious. We’re just trying to get back something that nature took away – our hair.
If we work harder to speak out against gossipy reporters who make false claims and do little more than fling around callous and shallow insults, maybe we can draw attention to the fact that hair loss is a misfortune and an inconvenience, and let’s just be grateful that there are effective treatments and hair replacement options that we can use to look like ourselves and feel confident.
